I’d like my community (followers, artisans, fashionistas, and peers in the pursuit of living an ethical lifestyle) to know a little bit about who I am – what I believe in, what I value, what makes me laugh out loud. That’s why I’ve asked one of my team members to come up with a list of questions to ask me about my life.
The question this month is:
Do you believe in fate or destiny?
My answer is this:
I believe that my life has taken me on a specific trajectory, and I know many different people who feel similarly about their own lives. When I’m doing what I feel I’m meant to be doing at any given moment, I have a sense of being guided. It’s a comforting feeling. When I’m being true to myself and my dreams, I feel more capable of trusting my life – wherever it takes me.
I believe that people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime (as the saying goes). The challenges I’ve come up against in my life, and the people I’ve met, have helped me to grow as a person and as an artist, and I feel grateful to have experienced what I have.
But do you know what I believe in more so than fate? Synchronicity. I believe in synchronicity. It’s hard for me to really get behind the concept of fate when there’s so much suffering and sadness in the world. I’ve had a very privileged life, where I’ve been given not just opportunities, but options. This is not true for everyone.
And yet I do believe in synchronicity – a non-logical way of exploring the wonder of the world, and the good things that do happen.
When I think about synchronicity, I think about meeting one of my dearest friend in a class of 300 people, getting to know each other (finding those insane commonalities), and over time creating a beautiful bond.
I think about travelling around the world, and meeting someone by chance in India who knows a friend of mine from back home. And to add to that, they have something that belongs to my friend on them, that they then give to me to return.
I think about my first doll in kindergarten. A ‘my little nursery baby’ (or something like that), who had blonde hair and blue eyes, and whose name (the tag instructed me) was Christopher. My husband’s name is Chris, and he has blue eyes and blonde hair. At my bridal shower, everyone was like ‘oh… that’s kind of creepy.’ And then his mom presented me with one of the first things she ever sewed in her sewing class in high school: a stuffed elephant. Anyone who knows anything about me, knows that I’m obsessed with elephants. I mean, I’ve travelled the world to see elephants.
So little things like that.
I think when people say “Oh, that’s weeeird!!” or “that’s so interesting that happened that way,” that’s synchronicity. And I believe in it.